Idaho Wednesday's Child/SNAPS profile for Kade

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With his red hair and freckles, KADE (4/96) is a very cute! A bright boy who enjoys math and reading, behavioral supports in the classroom help him to be able to work up to his academic potential. He loves highly physical activities and some of his favorites are playing basketball, football, and tennis, and swimming. He also loves to play games on his Game Cube. The Harry Potter series, of course, is among some of his favorite reading material these days.

Legally free, Kade came into foster care in mid 2001. Multiple placements (including one adoptive disruption) have clearly made it more difficult for him to trust that adults are going to be there for him and to be willing to form attachments. This is a boy who has never been in a family where he could believe that there was enough parental love, affection, and attention to go around. While he knows that he cannot stay in his current foster home long term, he would think it was the best of all possible worlds if a family in his foster family’s community came forward to adopt him. He has made good progress, according to his foster mom, over the past six months and he is feeling at home in the neighborhood. He can name all of the boys on the block he plays with and readily point out where they live in proximity to him. His foster mom intends to be a resource for him until a permanent family can be found. She understands his desire to stay in the same area and is using her local contacts to help find an interested family locally. 

Kade’s fear of further rejection and abandonment, and fear for his safety often leave him hyper-vigilant and ready to strike out first against whatever or whomever he perceives to be against him. He can be physically aggressive, especially toward other kids, and doesn’t yet really grasp the give and take of what relationships and friendships. He often experiences other kids as competitors, particularly when significant adults in his life are being attentive to them. While h e is very concerned about everything being fair, he does best when he has rules and boundaries that are concrete and non-negotiable.

Although having two parents could help Kade see first hand how two adults care for one another and their children, while sharing and disagreeing and problem solving in safe ways, his social worker also wants to hear from those terrific single moms and dads from who have very strong support systems of family, friends, and community resources in back of them. It is the kind of parenting, when all is said and done, that will likely make the difference in Kade’s life. He needs very attentive adults who have a good understanding of the needs of a child with trust and attachment difficulties. It will be essential for him to have parent(s), especially a mom, who value therapeutic interventions and who will participate with him in mental health family counseling. His parent(s) will need to be supportive of other therapy resources that may be helpful to him, too, such as individual and group therapies.

Kade’s adoptive family must be ready, willing, and able to accept that he may not be able to reciprocate their love and affection, especially in demonstrative ways, and encourage and support him in building upon the strengths that he has. Kade has the potential to grow and to do well in a family who will accept him as one of their own.

Kade has one full sibling, a brother, and some half siblings with whom he should have some level of contact as he is growing up. Such continuity for a child with trust and attachment issues is very important.

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